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Femdom Husband Training: Fantasy, Discouragement and The Ten

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Ahhhh...she is the most beautiful, the most sensuous woman in the world and her natural grasp of the power dynamic in their relationship leaves him swooning. The ways she lavishes her dominance on him-the timely  paddlings, the constant teasing him in his locked-up state, the use of scolding and whipping at just the right moment, the masterful command
of the day-to-day essentials like housework and finances - it all fits together so well. And it is almost dreamlike...

And then he wakes up.

He is a walking contradiction, striving to be ‘normal’ on the outside while harboring these deep feelings of submission and this ‘need to be dominated’. And he has had years – perhaps decades – to refine his fantasies, his dreams of his ideal Mistress. The gap between his fantasy wife and the reality and complexity of life in marriage starts to stand out in stark relief, taking the form of what she might perceive as withdrawing on his part, pulling away. When she speaks, sometimes it’s like he hears an echo from down the hall, all the while his fantasy plays out on the hidden wide-screen of his internal world.

So, eventually this all comes to the front and she hears his ideas, his dreams and, though it’s really not her thing, she accedes. She may find that she enjoys elements of it; and there may be elements that she finds abhorrent.

She may, in fact, grow to embrace it whole-hog (in which case he will likely find he’s getting a lot more than he imagined, or bargained for). But it’s more likely there will be adjustments as she tries to fit his world view into something that resembles her own.

It may be a matter of a period of adjustment, or it might turn out to be a new ‘normal’, where she comes to ‘know’ her right role and position, and expressing it in her inimitable way, finds her own happiness, release and relaxation. And this new normal might not include those items of which he dreams so vividly, and so he is left a spectator again, watching his fantasy while struggling with living and loving in his reality.

“Advice for men”

“For the man, the trick in finding happiness in a D/s relationship is to
understand what makes his partner happy. Their mission together is to
find the dominant role which is completely within her character, to
which he can submit. The key to a successful D/s relationship is to ADD
the exchange of power to the dynamics of the Foundation Relationship
rather than to replace it. The idea is that when he submits, he does so to
her unique identity. Her domination will be different than any other he
has ever read or dreamed about, since she is different than anyone else
he’s ever met. Because he is submitting to the unique person she is, with
her unique style, there will be no doubt it is her he desires. She is his
lover, to whom he submits…not an object in leather with a whip.”

 – Chapter 3 – Adding D/s to Your Relationship

Are there ways to help construct a bridge into their future they can walk over hand-in-hand?
In professional sports, before each season there is ‘training’ – weeks of exercises, drills, practice and discussion around the basic elements of the game. Teams that do well usually have an excellent command of the basics. Any new job includes a period of intense training, and certainly the military relies on ‘basic’ training, as well as ongoing drills and exercises.

Borrowing that idea, The Ten is one way to build that bridge in the D/s relationship, providing a period of intense focus and basic training with a limited duration. The framework can easily include daily drills, studies and exercises that provides structure and experience, and opportunities to open avenues of communication and expression that strengthen the relationship well past the end of training.

The book:  ‘Uniquely Rika’

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